The day I started simplifying my life is the same day I began living it. Living a simple, frugal life is within your grasp, just like it is for everyone. It takes approximately 21 days to form a new habit, so I want you to take the next 21 days and begin with one of the many things I will talk about in this article. Yes, actually make a conscious effort if you want to change your life.
Difference Between Needs and Wants
Whether you are single, in a relationship with no kids, or married with one or more children, you need to understand the difference between the needs and wants in life.
Needs are things you simply cannot live without:
Pretty short list, isn’t it?
Wants are simple, they are things you CAN live without:
- Smartphones (yes we can live without our phones lol)
- Game consoles
- New, shiny vehicles
- New clothes
- New shoes
The list of wants could go on and on but I am going to do us both a favor and stop. Many people are struggling financially and everyone wants to know ways to save money. How about spending your money on things you actually need and then instead of buying that new TV you put that money in savings?
We, as human beings have a natural motivation to impress others. We all feel the need to buy the newest electronics or vehicle or clothes. Don’t fall into this trap! If you want to live a simple, frugal life then spend your money on the needs in life.
I am not saying you cannot treat yourself every once in a while. Yes, take your family on vacation and go explore this beautiful world. Just remember your needs should always outweigh your wants.
Changing Your Mindset
Having a simple mindset is key to living a simple life. Above I spoke about the difference between your wants and needs so I want to work off that. Some of you honestly believe you can never go a day without a phone. So I want you to try it. Yes leave your phone at home and go for a walk or a movie with your significant other. Disconnect from the world for a couple hours and see how you feel.
When you come back, your phone is going to be sitting there, waiting for you, and you are still going to be healthy and alive.
It was hard for me to change my mindset. About 5 years ago when I was living in Northern California, I had access to all the hiking trails you could imagine. It took one hike in nature, by myself, no phone, to understand what it means to appreciate the little things. I enjoyed the sounds and the smells of simply walking through the woods and up a waterfall. The rest of the world stood still and it was just me, in that moment. From that moment on, I have worked at simplifying my life.
Another way to change your mindset is to only control what you can control. Too many times I will talk to someone about issues in their life and they will tell me a story about something that they had no control over. So why become so upset? Why invest so much time and energy into something that is completely out of your control?
Let me give you a tip… LET IT GO.
Control the controllable and let everything else go.
Make Time For “ME”
This is one of the most important things you can do for your personal health. I know all you parents out there do not make enough time for yourself. Whether it’s running little Johnny around after school or making dinner or doing laundry, when do you ever just take a few minutes to focus on you?
“Me” time has to be one of the most underrated topics when discussing personal health and improvement.
Take time to meditate. Go see a movie by yourself. Maybe me time is when you go to the gym. Clear your head of work and the kids and all the other issues in the world. If you do not make time for yourself than you cannot be the best parents, partner, coworker you possibly can be.
It’s the Little Things in Life
Have you heard of this saying? Of course, you have. Everyone has. But when you think or talk about this phrase it is so powerful. Living a simple life gives you the ability to enjoy the little things in life. Yes, you may live a life full of clutter and still appreciate small things in life but I can almost guarantee you will feel much better when you de-clutter your life AND enjoy the little things.
If you do not know what little things are I will give you a couple examples:
- Singing in the car with your partner or children
- Not having traffic on the way to work in the morning
- Having a cup of tea in the morning
- Your husband putting the toilet seat down after use (FINALLY)
- Your wife watching the game with you
These are all very small things in life that can make your day so much better if you make a conscious effort to give them your attention and appreciate them for what they are.
Do me a favor and slow down. Take a breath. I realize that today’s society has you working to your limits but you also need to find the special moments throughout the day to be grateful.
Stop and take a look around. Look up from your computer or smartphone. Meet new people and share stories. Spend more time with the ones closest to you. Read more books. And please… control the controllables.
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